How can something so simple go sour so quickly? You think you are communicating properly and then you start getting horrible reactions day after day. You tell others what you need and want and you do not understand their put off reaction. Why is this happening? In your opinion you choose the right words, but you do not get the reaction you expected.

Is communicating properly simple? No. There is an “art” in communicating your feelings and needs appropriately and it is called assertive communication.

When you communicate assertively, you command respect from others. You appear confident, straight-forward and honest. Through your words and actions, you let the other person know they are respected and that their point of view is important.

Assertive communication allows you to say what you need, express your feelings, stand up for your rights and set appropriate boundaries. All of this sounds good and simple right? Not really. It takes time, hard work and dedication to re learn proper communication, but it can be done with your desire.

You can learn the new art of using “I” vs. “You” statements. Assertiveness means taking ownership of the words that come out of your mouth. It attaches a feeling that you own, “I feel…” “I would like it if…” “I” takes ownership, “you” places blame.

Communicating assertively sticks to the facts and allows you to only speak about the facts. No insults, no accusations, no exaggerations of the truth, just the facts.

It would be a wonderful world if we were all trained in the art of assertive communication, however the problem with assertive communication is we do not take the time to learn and practice it. We get used to our old ways of communicating, decide they are comfortable for us and never make a change. Everyone could benefit from proper communication.

If you find that you are not communicating your feelings with “I” statements and getting the results you are hoping for in your conversations, come to AngerManagementOnline.com and start to work on your “I” statements and get the respect you desire and deserve. Start working today for a better tomorrow.


 

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